Saturday, February 14, 2009

Finding Your Spirit: Understanding what spirituality means to you.

I received this particular write up from Lai Fun last month. I printed it out and it was lying on my desk for a while even after I've read it. To have read it again kinda gives me the answers to share with people who get all confused of what spirituality really is.
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Most people think that embarking on the spiritual path simply means, in one way or another renouncing the world and work your way to being a monk or a saint. While there are certain truth it it, renouncing the world doesn't mean having to sacrifice anything; just your own meaning to it. Anyway, it is just something that I've just learnt and still learning which I will share on a later date once I am more familiar with it. Mind you, it might take years. :p
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Coming back to the article. It is as below: -
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What is Spirituality?
To begin a spiritual journey, the first step is understanding what spirituality means to you. Five spiritual thinkers answer one of life's toughest questions.
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To begin a spiritual journey, it's important to first understand what spiritual means. Spiritual leaders from around the world want to help you start your journey by explaining what spirituality means to them.
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1. Eckhart Tolle, author of A New Earth, says to be spiritual is to live in a state of openness. "With that openness, a far greater power comes into your life," he says. "So to be spiritual is to be in touch, connected with that dimension of depth in yourself."
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Eckhart says you need to be come more aware of the aliveness of this moment. "The aliveness that is all around you no matter where you are. And to become aware of that, you need to become a little bit more alert than you usually are," Eckhart says. "Increasingly, you become rooted in the aliveness and the fullness of the present moment. That's to lead a spiritual life."
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2. Spiritual author and lecturer Marianne Williamson says spirituality wakens when you become still and humble. "There are forces inside you - forces of fear and limitation and chaos - and they live inside us saying, "You can't do that," she says. "Spirituality is where you lay claim to a ground of being within yourself where you say, "I want to be that. I really do. I want to be that person that I'm capable of being."
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Marianne says people aren't happy because of what they aren't giving. "The most important thing is that we learn how to forgive each other and that we learn how to love each other. How to live in the spirit of blessing and not blame," Marianne says. "The spiritual path doesn't mean always an easier path, but it means a choice. A choice that we're making to try our best to be as loving as we can be."
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3. Rabbi Irwin Kula, president of the National Jewish Center for Learning and Leadership, says the key to being a spiritual person is understanding that it takes practice. "You have to practice becoming alert, becoming more conscious, being aware," he says. "And you have to practice becoming kinder, more compassionate and more caring."
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Rabbi Kula has a rule that will help you practice your spirituality. "You have to develop your head, your heart, and your hands," he says. In order to develop your head, Rabbi Kula says you need to learn something new about yourself, someone else or an opinion you strongly disagree with, because doing so will help you become more conscious, aware or alert.
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When you are grateful for things, Rabbi Kula says you develop your heart. He suggests that at the end of the day you think of 10 things that you're grateful for.
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The idea of developing your hands means to perform an act of kindness every day. "Here's the key: [perform the act of kindness for] someone more vulnerable than you," Rabbi Kula says. "And it's like anything else. The more we practice, the better we become."
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4. The Rev. Ed Bacon says that like law and medicine, spirituality is a practice. "Spiritual practitioners must practice spirituality where we stop, take a breath, become still inside - that's the act of meditation and contemplation," he says. "It is the same in all of the religions."
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The Rev. Bacon's advice for people seeking a spiritual journey is threefold. "That is to be in nature, to connect with the arts and to connect with ritual," he says. "It is in moments of serenity, stillness, that we experience something much larger, transcendent, cosmic than we are."
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5. Michael Bernard Beckwith says everyone is spiritual, though not everyone realizes it. Spirituality, he says, is the awakening to a dimension of the being of soul. "When one begins to really feel into the spiritual dimension of their beings, they bump into love. They bump into compassion. They bump into beauty," he says.
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When you begin to notice the things in life you are grateful for, Michael says you will stop seeing obstacles or hindrances. "You see potential. You see possibilities," he says. "Then you become an open vehicle for more inspiration, more wisdom, more guidance coming from the spiritual part of your being."
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Article emailed to me by Chan Lai Fun, Clove&Clive. Thank you, Lai Fun. :)
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And a very happy valentine's day to you. This, is my valentine gift to you. Love.

Monday, February 9, 2009

Dad's Christmas Present

Some unpleasant event happened on Christmas Day, so my dad never got the chance, or rather got into the mood to open the Christmas present that I gave him. A few times I asked him why he hadn't opened it and he'd sarcastically reply, "You already gave me the best Christmas gift." Ok, yes, I boo-booed. Although I didn't think that it was entirely my fault but I do admit that I was insensitive to the situation and do have to take full responsibility of what I did. And no, I will not go into details because no use crying or mentioning about the spilt milk right?
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Anyway, this evening dad suddenly called me and invited me to his house to discuss about the residential committee's newsletter about dogs. There was this newsletter that our president sent out and he had asked me over to clarify certain matters. That didn't take long. Thereafter, we started chatting about other stuffs comfortably. After a while, I remembered about the present which was still lying on the side table in his hall. So I went to take it and gave it to him. Being my grumpy dad, he nagged a little about what happened on Christmas Day but when I finally placed the present in front of him, he opened it carefully.
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It was a book on the 100 Wonders of the World. I know how much he loves traveling especially to places which borne historical meanings. I was so pleased when he flipped each page of the book, one by one; with me sitting beside him. We talked about the places that he has been and the places that he wish to visit. It was truly truly a pleasant father and daughter bonding session. I enjoyed it.
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When he finished flipping the last page, he said this, "Now, don't think that this book that you gave me can make up for all the things you did to me..." I laughed at him. He was just so cute when he said that. I told him that the gift was not to make up to him, but to support his interest in traveling the world. Before I left, he said, "Thank You." and I gave him a hug before I walked home.
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Yes, I do love my dad very much and I know he loves me too. I guess I was very childish then and did not have the wisdom to understand the hardship that he had been through to have said or treated me in a certain way. I failed to see that all he ever wanted was to give me his best, although I knew it. Now I've come to understand that knowing one thing and understanding it is 2 entirely different things. Now that I am older and am on this spiritual journey, it has helped me understand that many a times when I was hurt and angry, it was not because of him but because I had allowed myself to play the role of a victim when in actual fact was never his true intention. It was all love. Love from a dad to a child; sincerity from the heart. Just that he had his own issues too, just as I had mine.
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Sometimes I feel bad that I am unable to be the daughter that he wants me to be. But then again, if I'd ever thread on that line again; I'm pretty sure that I'd be a bigger disappointment to myself because I'd not be true to myself and for that, in some way or another, fail him miserably.
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I am feeling more peaceful now.. being able to turn my radar inward from the initial outward. Because I am now able to see more clearly that whatever that is outside of me, is merely my own reflection and creation. And sincerely, I choose to create my world with love.
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Blessed Be.

Sunday, February 8, 2009

David & Dolly's Wedding (7/2/2009)

Not many people that I hang out with very often would know them. In fact, I myself don't even know David and was not fortunate enough to even have a word with him. Dolly, was a very close friend of mine. The reason why it's in past tense is because, well.. the last time I saw her was on my wedding day in year 2004. Don't know why, we just never got around to catch up with each other much. Although I told myself and already confirmed with her that I would attend her wedding dinner some time ago, I found myself comtemplating if I should really go just earlier in the afternoon. 3 reasons for the comtemplation: 1) I had to go alone and wasn't sure if I'd know anybody there 2) Jln Bukit Bintang was closed for some CNY celebration and I had to use another alternative road which I was not familiar with 3) I don't know what to wear - the clothes I had before I got married or had Thea was too tight; the clothes I had after I had Thea was too loose and I didn't have time to go shopping for a new gown/formal dress.
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At the end, I decided that I should go, for only one reason: Dolly.
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I put on my Roxy tube and jeans and wrapped my neck around with an AirAsia scraf that hubby bought me months ago. I looked semi-formal. Erm, actually I think casual was more like it. But I figured that it was my presence that mattered; and I was comfortable in such clothes for today anyway, so I attended the wedding dinner wearing just that.
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When I got into KL through Jln Sungai Besi, I was quite sure that I wasn't familiar in how to get to Westin due to the road closure. I listened carefully for the Angels' guidance and observed my surroundings for any road turning into Ritz Carlton from Jln Imbi, as Dolly instructed via SMS. And of course, it took me additional turns after I missed the turning into Ritz Carlton to get to Westin. Anyhow, I found my way and decided to park at the valet since I was alone.
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As I stepped out of the lift and into the Grand Ballroom area, I was nothing but surprised! Most of the guests were familiar faces! Mark, Marilyn, Gary & his wife, Purdee, Laticia, Jyh Hoe, Tien Sim, Mun Chuan, HanVi, Yiu Lin and some others. It was amazing - they were either friends I knew from swimming, from Sri KL, from college or from Melbourne! Although time did not permit me to catch up sufficiently with each and everyone of them, but certainly it felt so good to see them once again!
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I chatted the most with Marilyn and Gary because they were seated right next to me at the same table. I loved their company! Well, actually I think I would have loved the company of all the old friends that I'd met tonight if I had the chance to just sit down to chat with them too but since the closest was Gary and Marilyn, I guess that'll have to do for now! ;p It was a great catching up session nevertheless!
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A little bit about the dinner: It was great! It was truly modern and fun. Lots of laugters and jokes came from the couple's friends, relatives and they themselves. Have you ever heard a groom say this, "I would like to thank my parents for raising such a fine young man like me."? hahaha... his speech was awesomely funny and heartwarming! I loved it! The video of their ceremony, and their growing up years and years spent together pak-tor-ing was also tastefully done. It was indeed a memorable night!
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I got back about 1:30am, with hubby waiting for me while getting ready to watch a football match on astro. After I showered and while seated on my faithful massage chair, I told hubby that if I am to start attending wedding or formal functions, I should really start buying nice gowns since the old ones don't really fit and I shouldn't buy those that flare 'cause they make me look fat and pregnant (because I have pretty broad shoulders). Hahaha... another fine excuse to shop! Luckily, he agreed. :)
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So, who wants to go shopping with me next? ;D
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Thank you, dear Dolly, for remembering to include me in your special event. For that has not only given me an opportunity to witness an important mark in your journey of life but also brought me back to a circle of old friends whom I nearly forgot that I had. I wish you and David love, happiness and respect in your journey together.
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Be loved, for you are loved. :)

Friday, February 6, 2009

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

This is a book that I've just completed yesterday. I finished it within 24 hours. It is quite an easy book to read, with some spiritual lessons that I wish to share.
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When someone sees the same people very day, as had happened with him at the seminary, they wind up becoming a part of that person's life. And then they want the person to change. If someone isn't what others want them to be, the others become angry. Everyone seems to have a clear idea of how other people should lead their lives, but none about his or her own.
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"It's this: that at a certain point in our lies, we lose control of what's happening to us, and our lives become controlled by fate. That's the world's greatest lie."
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"Don't forget that everything that you deal with is only one thing and nothing else. And don't forget the language of omens. And, above all, don't forget to follow your destiny though its conclusion."
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"Everyone has his or her own way of learning things," he said to himself. "His way isn't the same as mine, nor mine as his. But we're both in search of our destinies, and I respect him for that."
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The camel driver, though, seemed not to be very concerned with the threat of war.
"I'm alive" he said to the boy, as they ate a bunch of dates one night, with no fires and no moon. "When I'm eating, that's all I think about. If I'm on the march, I just concentrate on marching. If I have to fight, it will be just as good a day to die as any other.
"Because I don't live in either my past of my future. I'm interested only in the present. If you can concentrate always on the present, you'll be a happy man. You'll see that there is life in the desert, That there are stars in the heavens, and that tribesmen fight because they are part of the human race. Life will be a party for you, a grand festival, because life is the moment we're living right now."
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The language that everyone on earth was capable of understanding in their hearts. It was love.
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It was the pure Language of the World. It required no explanation, just as the universe needs none as it travels through endless time.
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And when two such people encounter each other, and their eyes meet, the past and the future become unimportant. There is only that moment, and the incredible certainty that everything under the sun has been written by one hand only. It is the hand that evokes love, and creates a twin soul for every person in the world. Without such love, one's dreams would have no meaning.
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"When people consult me, it's not that I'm reading the future; I am guessing at the future. The future belongs to God, and it is only he who reveals it, under extraordinary circumstances. How do I guess at the future? Based on the omens of the present. The secret is here in the present. If you pay attention to the present, you can improve upon it. And, if you improve on the present, what comes later will also be better. Forget about the future, and live each day according to the teachings, confident that God loves his children. Each day, in itself, brings with it an eternity."
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"Only when he, himself, reveals it. And God rarely reveals the future. When he does so, it is for only one reason: it's a future that was written so as to be altered."
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"It's not what enters men's mouths that's evil," said the alchemist. "It's what comes out of their mouths that is."
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"Don't say anything," Fatima interrupted. "One is loved because one is loved. No reason is needed for loving."
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"Don't think about what you've left behind," the alchemist said to the boy as they began to ride across the sands of the desert. "Everything is written in the Soul of the World, and there it will stay forever."
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"If one finds is made of pure matter, it will never spoil. And one can always come back. If what you had found was only a moment of light, like the explosion of a star, you would find nothing on your return."
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"There is only one way to learn," the alchemist answered. "It's through action. Everything you need to know you have learned through your journey. You need to learn only one thing more."
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"The wise men understood that this natural world is only an image and a copy of paradise. The existence of this world is simply a guarantee that there exists a world that is perfect. God created the world so that, through visible objects, men could understand his spiritual teachings and the marvels of his wisdom. That's what I mean by action."
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"Listen to your heart. It knows all things, because it came from the Soul of the World, and it will one day return there."
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"Treason is a blow that comes unexpectedly. If you know your heart well, it will never be able to do that to you. Because you'll know its dreams and wishes, and will know how to deal with them.
"You will never be able to escape from your heart. So it's better to listen to what it has to say. That way, you'll never have to fear an unanticipated blow."
The boy continued to listen to his heart as they crossed the desert. He came to understand its dodges and tricks, and to accept it as it was. He lost his fear, and forgot about his need to go back to the oasis, because, one afternoon, his heart told him that it was happy. "Even though I complain sometimes," it said, "it's because I'm the heart of a person, and people's hearts are that way. People are afraid to pursue their most important dreams, because they feel that they don't deserve them, or that they'll be unable to achieve them. We, their hearts, become fearful just thinking of loved ones who go away forever, or of moments that could have been good but weren't, or of treasures that might have been found but were forever hidden in the sands. Because, when these things happen, we suffer terribly."
"My heart is afraid that it will have to suffer," the boy told the alchemist one night as they looked up at the moonless sky.
"Tell your heart that the fear of suffering is worse that the suffering itself. And that no heart has ever suffered when it goes in search of its dreams, because every second of the search is a second's encounter with God and with eternity."
"Every second of the search is an encounter with God," the boy told his heart. "When I have been truly searching for my treasure, everyday has been luminous, because I've known that every hour was a part of the dream that I could find it. When I have been truly searching for my treasure, I've discovered things along the way that I never would have seen had I not had the courage to try things that seemed impossible for a shepherd to achieve."
So his heart was quiet for an entire afternoon. That night, the boy slept deeply, and when he awoke, his heart began to tell him things that came from the Soul of the World. It said that all people who are happy have God within them. And that happiness could be found in a grain of sand from the desert, as the alchemist had said. Because a grain of sand is a moment of creation, and the universe has taken millions of years to create it. "Everyone on earth has a treasure that awaits him," his heart said. "We, people's hearts, seldom say much about those treasure, because people no longer want to go in search of them. We speak of them only to children. Later, we simply let life proceed, in its own direction, toward its own fate. But, unfortunately, very few follow the path laid out for them - the path to their destinies, and to happiness. Most people see the world as a threatening place, and because they do, the world turns out, indeed, to be a threatening place.
"So, we, their hearts, speak more and more softly. We never stop speaking out, but we begin to hope that our words won't be heart: we don't want to people to suffer because they don't follow their hearts."
"Why don't people's hearts tell them to continue to follow their dreams?" the boy asked the alchemist.
"Because that's what makes a heart suffer most, and hearts don't like to suffer."
From then on, the boy understood his heart. He asked it, please, never to stop speaking to him. He asked that, when he wandered far from his dreams, his heart press him and sound the alarm. The boy swore that, every time he heard the alarm, he would heed its message.
That night, he told all of this to the alchemist. And the alchemist understood that the boy's heart had returned to the Soul of the World.
"So what should I do now?" the boy asked.
"Continue in the direction of the Pyramids," said the alchemist. "And continue to pay heed to the omens. Your heart is still capable of showing you where the treasure is."
"Is that the one things I still needed to know?"
"No," the alchemist answered. "What you still need to know is this: before a dream is realised, the Soul of the World tests everything that was learned along the way. It does this not because it is evil, but so that we can, in addition to realizing our dreams, master the lessons we've learned as we moved toward that dream. That's the point at which most people give up. It's the point at which, as we say in the language of the desert, "one 'dies of thirst just when the palm trees have appeared on the horizon.'
"Every search begins with beginner's luck. And every search ends with the victor's being severely tested."
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"When you possess great treasures within you, and try to tell others of them, seldom are you believed."
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"If a person is living out his destiny, he knows everything he needs to know. There is only one thing that makes a dream impossible to achieve: the fear of failure."
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"This is what we call love," the boy said, seeing that the wind was close to granting what he requested. "When you are loved, you can do anything in creation. When you are loved, there's no need at all to understand what's happening, because everything happens within you, and even men can turn themselves into the wind. As long as the wind helps, of course."
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"Well, why did you say that I don't know about love?" the sun asked the boy.
"Because it's not love to be static like the desert, nor is it love to roam the world like the wind. And it's not love to see everything from a distance, like you do. Love is a force that transforms and improves the Soul of the World. When I first reached through to it, I thought the Soul of the World was perfect. But later, I could see that it was like other aspects of creation, and had its own passions and wars. It is we who nourish the Soul of the World, and the world we live in will be either better of worse, depending on whether we become better or worse. And that's where the power of love comes in. Because when we love, we always strive to become better than we are."
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Excerpts from The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Heroes Season II

Finished it within 2 days. Again, if not for all the things that I need to do, I would have finished it within 24 hours.. haha.. only 11 episodes! Easy!
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I find that it is still interesting, except that it is not as "chee kek" as Season 1. Eva says that it is because in Season 1, the storyline was building up the characters which made it more interesting. She had a point there. But Season 2 didn't fail me.. just that I will stop watching any series for now until I have faithfully finished Gem of Life showing on AOD. Hahaha... only 8 more episodes to go. Besides, when I am "chasing" any series, it is like I am oblivious to the world! Hubby can vouch for that! Haha!
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I have more updates to come for CNY. But since CNY is not over yet, might as well wait for it to be ENTIRELY over before I update about it. It is indeed a busy CNY. Of course, Heroes added more spice for me ;p. Haha..
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Ok la.. it is 5:47am. Woke up super early together with hubby to make him breakfast since I neglected him yesterday because of Heroes.. hahaha... and now it is time to catch Gem of Life before the sun greets. I missed it last night because I was toooooooooo tired.. hehehe ;D